Oh, Stress! I bet that at least 70% of you reading this post felt stressed today! Maybe you felt stressed because of an exam, a group presentation, an interview or simply just going about your daily activities! Stress forms and takes shape in many different ways and everyone will be affected in different ways but it is more than likely that everyone will be affected by stress at some point in their life. Being stressed is okay! Small, manageable amounts are part of normal healthy living, however, stress that is debilitating or life inflicting should be taken seriously. If you have any worries or concerns about your own personal stress levels then you should definitely seek help from a professional. Today, I thought I would share with you some things to remember next time you are stressed which hopefully might make coping with your stress levels easier and less challenging. I am no mystic mag and I definitely am not a qualified professional, so don't expect any groundbreaking advice!
#1 WHATS THE WORST THAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN?!
I hate it when people say this to me, so I am sorry for giving this advice because I know it can be annoying, but it is a highly important thing to remember. The thing with stress is that it escalates. You get stressed about one thing which then starts you off like a chain of dominos and before you know it you are stressed about things that aren't going to happen. When people are stressed they focus on the worst that is going to happen either because they have seen it on TV etc. Or their imagination makes up these situations which have a very slim chance of happening! Stress affects people's ability to be able to think straight so if you do feel stressed its important to try and tell yourself what you think is going to happen is probably not!
#2 HOW LONG IS IT GOING TO GO ON FOR?!
I think this is such an important point to take into account when you feel stressed. Sometimes when you are caught up in a stressful situation it can feel like it is going to go on forever. For instance, people in the north of England who have recently had their houses flooded are probably very stressed and concerned right now. However, although it may be very hard to be able to put yourself in the right mindset. Their house is not going to be flooded forever and yes the drying process may take a few months or years, which can seem like a lifetime it is going to come to an end eventually.
#3 IS IT AS BAD AS YOU THINK?
This is very similar to the first point I made, in terms of the brain not being able to function as well when it is stressed. I usually describe this as a missing filter. You get given a problem and a unstressed person will be able to see the issues and give an accurate account of some of the possible complications that can occur but also a realistic expectation of the situation i.e. trying not to think the situation is going to be as bad as you think! Without this filter, you automatically assume the worst which then escalates into more stress which is never beneficial for anyone. Trying to look realistically at a situation should help try and reduce your stress levels!
#4 WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT BETTER?
A lot of people, including myself will have their own ways of coping with stress that are personal to them. It is important although you may not be able to take yourself completely away from a situation that is causing you stress you work around it to help ease the stress levels and consequently make it more manageable and bearable! Identifying what is causing you stress is also paramount in being able to work around it to ensure that it affects you and your day to day life as little as possible! Identifying what eases stress for you whether that be colouring books, peaceful music or a hobby is essential!
#5 IT'S OKAY! YOUR NOT MAD! YOU ARE NOT INSANE! YOU ARE COMPLETLY NORMAL!
When people are stressed, often for prolonged periods of time it can make then feel like they are mad or gone crazy. This is Definitely not the case. Although the way your brain and body deals with the stress may not be a sufficient way it doesn't mean that you are insane! Some degree of stress is normal however if you feel that your personal stress levels are taking over, you can talk to a professional who should give you confidential and supportive advice. No one will judge you or think you are silly going to the doctors for such a matter. You are stuck with yourself for the rest of your life so it is important that you take care of yourself!
And that's it! I hope you enjoyed these quick tips! As I said I am no expert but I hope that at least one of you found these tips useful and will maybe apply them next time you find your stress levels rising!
Do you have any more tips for dealing with stress?! What do you tell yourself when you are stressed?! Let me know it the comments below x